Joelle 
Upon reading my friends blog today, it inspired me to write a blog along similar lines...:). She wrote about her sister, such nice and sweet things...and I’m going to strive to give you a mental picture of who my sisters are and where they are in life :).
Joelle~ the middle sister, and I believe she truly imbibes all of those traits that middle siblings are said to have.
Middle children often feel like their older brother gets all the glory while their younger sister escapes all discipline. Because the middle child feels that the world pays him less attention, he tends to be secretive; he does not openly share his thoughts or feelings. Middle children may not feel they have a special place in the family so friends and peer groups become much more important. They can usually read people well, they are peacemakers who see all sides of a situation, they are independent and inventive. If a firstborn is a company's CEO, the middle child is the entrepreneur.
She’s definitely played the victim on more than one occasion, seeing things in life that never actually happened, and downplaying any presumed favoring she’s had from our parents. She’s inventive, and lively…always stealing the show. She enjoys being active and is constantly surrounded by friends. And in so many ways she’s my opposite. She is aggressive and direct, getting the job done and I tend to be overly passive and dismissive, and internalize far too much. I admire her tenacity for getting people to want to follow her and her direction. On the flip side to that coin, we clash sometimes too much, and she hurts my feelings…or I come off too abrupt for her…
Jarryn~ the youngest sister, with all these traits:
While lastborns may be charming, they also have the potential to be manipulative, spoiled or babied to the point of helplessness. "The last born is the one who will probably still have a pet name although he's 29 and has a masters degree," Leman says.
This may be true in some aspects. Jarryn is endlessly charming, and far cooler than I have ever or will ever be. People are attracted to her magnetism and general friendliness. She’s just a great friend. Sometimes I envy her seemingly endless ways to bond with so many different types of people. She’s a friend to all, and all clamor to be her friend.
Ok, now the fun part…me Jessica:
Clearly, firstborns are natural leaders. They also tend to be reliable, conscientious and perfectionists who don't like surprises. Although, firstborns are typically aggressive, many are also compliant people pleasers. They are model children who have a strong need for approval from anyone in charge.
Ok, maybe it’s harder to see when you’re delving into yourself than looking at others. But I’m going to try J. I do believe I may possess some leadership qualities, and I’m generally reliable, conscientious and a perfectionist. But…I love surprises J. I don’t believe I’m aggressive, although at times I strive to be more so, for many reasons but I am a people pleaser to a fault. I thrive under approval from people I admire and/or look up to.
All in all, I would love to take some of my sister’s qualities. Joelle’s tenacity, aggressiveness, her drive…and Jarryn’s magnetism, charm and ability to never meet a stranger. My sisters are amazing individuals that I wish I could be more like…and I strive everyday to be someone they too wish they could mimic.
Joelle~ the middle sister, and I believe she truly imbibes all of those traits that middle siblings are said to have.
Middle children often feel like their older brother gets all the glory while their younger sister escapes all discipline. Because the middle child feels that the world pays him less attention, he tends to be secretive; he does not openly share his thoughts or feelings. Middle children may not feel they have a special place in the family so friends and peer groups become much more important. They can usually read people well, they are peacemakers who see all sides of a situation, they are independent and inventive. If a firstborn is a company's CEO, the middle child is the entrepreneur.
She’s definitely played the victim on more than one occasion, seeing things in life that never actually happened, and downplaying any presumed favoring she’s had from our parents. She’s inventive, and lively…always stealing the show. She enjoys being active and is constantly surrounded by friends. And in so many ways she’s my opposite. She is aggressive and direct, getting the job done and I tend to be overly passive and dismissive, and internalize far too much. I admire her tenacity for getting people to want to follow her and her direction. On the flip side to that coin, we clash sometimes too much, and she hurts my feelings…or I come off too abrupt for her…
Jarryn~ the youngest sister, with all these traits:
While lastborns may be charming, they also have the potential to be manipulative, spoiled or babied to the point of helplessness. "The last born is the one who will probably still have a pet name although he's 29 and has a masters degree," Leman says.
This may be true in some aspects. Jarryn is endlessly charming, and far cooler than I have ever or will ever be. People are attracted to her magnetism and general friendliness. She’s just a great friend. Sometimes I envy her seemingly endless ways to bond with so many different types of people. She’s a friend to all, and all clamor to be her friend.
Ok, now the fun part…me Jessica:
Clearly, firstborns are natural leaders. They also tend to be reliable, conscientious and perfectionists who don't like surprises. Although, firstborns are typically aggressive, many are also compliant people pleasers. They are model children who have a strong need for approval from anyone in charge.
Ok, maybe it’s harder to see when you’re delving into yourself than looking at others. But I’m going to try J. I do believe I may possess some leadership qualities, and I’m generally reliable, conscientious and a perfectionist. But…I love surprises J. I don’t believe I’m aggressive, although at times I strive to be more so, for many reasons but I am a people pleaser to a fault. I thrive under approval from people I admire and/or look up to.
All in all, I would love to take some of my sister’s qualities. Joelle’s tenacity, aggressiveness, her drive…and Jarryn’s magnetism, charm and ability to never meet a stranger. My sisters are amazing individuals that I wish I could be more like…and I strive everyday to be someone they too wish they could mimic.
1 comment:
I think we are who we are in spite of what science and psychology tells us about being the firstborn. Yeah, some of the traits are right on, but I think as long as we continue to move towards the kind of person we want to be like, we can look and be like anything. In fact, I believe we are in a life-long fight to live as who we were created to be, not what we believe about ourselves or who others say we are. And I also found it interesting - the qualities of your sisters you want more of? I have experienced you as driven, aggressive, charming and magnetic. All things I love about my friend Jeska. (o:
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